2 comments on “How workplace bullying led three competent, ethical employees to take their lives

  1. Bullying needs to stop…Use your voice, help fight against work place bullies and bullying….Yes that’s why I keep posting my story….Let’s start a anti bullying campaign against men bullying women at work…I forgive him but I will use my story to help others…The injustice of bullying! What will these candidates do about work place bullies and bullying?
    All bullying is unacceptable !All bullying needs to stop.
    I was also the only one that Jeff Ursino treated like this..All he needed to do was be kind, show kindness. I want to bring more awareness to work place bullying in 2016 to help others not have to deal with bullies for bosses. The laws need to change!!!
    …I was fired 12 days before Christmas…
    Bosses should lead employees not Bully…
    Remember bullies come in all shapes and sizes….I was bullied by an adult named Jeff , my manager a bank in Carmel, Ca…after he successfully made me sick with nerves and caused my blood pressure to go up he fired me via UPS before Christmas while I was out on a workers comp pending case…my family will never forget the pain he caused us….it changed me forever.
    Jeff once told me that I couldn’t wear the hats I’d been wearing to work for almost four years with no problem. He said it was company policy yet there was nothing in writing. I called HR and they said there was nothing in the codes about hats. About six weeks later Jeff decided to tell me that I could wear hats again but only a couple days a week. I asked him what about the policy and he replied ” I’m in control” , it was his way of throwing his weight around, what a bully!
    He also threatened to fire me for job abandonment if I didn’t show up to work on a day I couldn’t work, my daughter was ill and he was already fully staffed. He put me on the schedule at the last minute to pressure me into working…a Bully at his finest.
    He also stated that I hadn’t worked on days that I had and I still have a copy of the schedules.
    Bullying needs to end and companies need to properly train manages to be leaders not bullies! What will politicians do about it? Nothing! We need to unite and do something about adult bullying and in the work place!
    I have two boxes of proof and I did document everything. When I realized that there is actually an Awareness month for anti bullying I decided to tell my story again in hopes of finding an organization that I can help bring light to this also very ugly issue!
    What I have mentioned is just a bit of all he did.
    No one cared or did anything about it. I wrote my leaders, congressmen , senators , mayors, city leaders, the president , attorney general, etc…everyone past the buck.
    Since then, bullying has come to the forefront and I want to tell my story.
    He is a father of 3 sons, still a ” manager” , on the board of trustees for a school district and I can’t help but wonder who he is bullying now.
    He had choices and he chose to be unkind, uncaring, not understanding, treated me like crap, ignored what others where doing, focused on me until he ruined me!
    ALL BULLIES NEED TO BE STOPPED!!!!!
    Only cowards bully other people!
    He didn’t care what I was wearing he simply wanted to show who was in control and bully me. The hats didn’t prevent me from doing my job nor did anyone ever complain about them, in fact I got lots of compliments from customers and a couple of his bosses and someone from HR, it’s was great until he showed up as a temporary manager. He just wanted me gone and set out to wrongfully terminate me. He couldn’t even write me up correctly and I have the proof. He couldn’t even fire me correctly as he broke California Labor codes in the process of firing me. He was simply unkind and heartless to me.
    Please grow up to be a kind, caring person. Never purposely make someone fear their going to loose their job for putting their daughter first, that’s what he did to me…and yet he is a father.
    Time to open their eyes and our leaders and change the laws. Speak the truth state the facts and have your evidence ready! One of the reasons I am doing this is because I have proof, my journal, the forms he used to write me up incorrectly. He was in such a hurry to write me up that the first time he wrote me up he used the wrong form, he used the second warning form.
    He threatened me with job abandonment yet didn’t know how that law worked.
    For some reason the universe, my God or what ever you want to believe, had me keep all the evidence. In my journal I wrote daily of what occurred at work, he singled me out. In four and a half years I loved my job 98 percent of the days then he came and ruined not only me but the spirit of that bank branch. He took away causal Friday and tried to take away cookies on Fridays for our customers.
    He said we all had to only eat in the break room but yet would eat at his desk and not say anything to the pretty blonde when she ate at her station. He took all my family photos down and claimed it was best for my family but allowed others to have their family photos out! A BULLY!!!
    The more I read the more I realize he was threatened by me. My reviews didn’t justify what he did. Several times I was asked if I was the manager as he stood next to me.
    The hat issue was just him being a bully, he ignored what others did and wouldn’t give me credit when it was due to me, he played it down. He snapped his fingers twice, said my name , pointed to the back room and said Damari in the back the very first time he ever addressed me. In the back room he said my reputation precedes me, that upper management had nothing but glowing reports about me. He asked why I thought I do so well and I told him because I love my job.
    He was a temporary manager, the branch was looking for a full time manager. Jeff was managing two branches during this process, I was trying to hang in there until we got a new one but he couldn’t wait to fire me.
    I’m understanding more about bullies these days, it doesn’t make it right but we need to pray for the bully.
    I use his name and the bank and location to keep it real and honest. I have nothing to hide.
    I use to tell my kids’ if you don’t want grammy to know what you did then don’t do anything you’d be a shamed of because I will tell grammy the truth’ it really helped with their behavior.
    I once wrote him and asked why he did what he did and I also told him that I hope no one ever treated his family as he had treated mine, but I got no response to my email from him. It’s all true so it’s not slander.
    I honestly feel that the bully should be called out, if he/she was so proud of their actions then don’t get upset when we share what you’ve done.
    Please feel free to share my story to bring awareness to work place bullies and bullying, it needs to stop, the laws need to protect the employees and victims not the bully. Share my story please.

    Kindness is free, spread it! Bullying cost lives and jobs, stop it! ~Damari Stratford ~

    http://inhumaneresources.wix.com/workplacebullying#!Change-Needs-to-Happen-Now/c1tye/56bd70b60cf2fd311ce05871

  2. There is no excuse for being a bully. We sometimes hear that bullies harass other people because they are emotionally insecure or socially incompetent. They resort to harassment and intimidation because they can’t think of any better way of getting attention. Yes, there are bullies who feel like social misfits. THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR BEING A COWARDLY BULLY!!!

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